As parents, we naturally have dreams for our children. That is part of being a parent. However, I am finding these days that too many parents are a little obsessive about their dreams for their children.

As many of you know, I have three boys, Derek is 8 years old, Nathan is 6 years old and Shawn is 4 years old. Derek has been in sports for almost three years now and Nathan has been in for a full year. We have experienced Soccer, Baseball and Football. I absolutely love sports for my boys. It keeps them active, it teaches them discipline, it helps them focus, just to name a few of the benefits. But, the number one reason my boys are there is because they want to and they themselves are extremely passionate about it.

Unfortunately there is a dark side to children’s sports. Any of you out there that have children in sports knows exactly what I am talking about. There are always those parents that take it to a whole new level. Last night I witnessed a mother trying to carry (physically forcing) her young son of six out onto the practice football field. After several minutes of this, the head coach went over and talked to them. This is not something that should be happening people! That little boy should not be on that field if he does not want to be, especially with football.

Don’t get me wrong, I am a no nonsense mom that does not take garbage from my children. I remember sending my 3 year old to swim lessons at the local pool crying and letting them work it out the first couple of sessions. I have also witnessed children crying at the first practice of baseball or soccer because they did not want to be there. I have seen some of those children quit and I have seen some completely turn things around and love the sport once they give it a chance. But, I have never seen someone physically try to drag their child on the field and force them to play.

Football is an extremely demanding sport and conditioning is certainly no picnic in the park. The thought of that poor boy being forced to go through something that grueling in 90 degree heat without even wanting to be there really breaks my heart.

The other thing I see out there is when the parent feels the need to force themselves on the coaches and the referrees/umpires. When, they are sitting and talking strategy at the first meeting when it is seven year olds playing soccer. When they are screaming at their children from the sidelines and completely humiliating them in front of their teammates. Childhood sports are supposed to be fun and educational for the children. Yes, they definitely get more competitive as they get older. But as a parent, aren’t we supposed to be there to encourage them and support them so they can develop the skills they will use the rest of their life in the real world and let the coaches take care of the discipline and coaching on the field?

I just felt like I had to say something for the little guys out there on the field giving it their all. You and I both know it means the world to them to be out there on that field. We both know all they want to do is play their heart out and make you and their coaches happy and proud. How about we change our way of thinking and let them play the game while we cheer them on from the sidelines?